Oh, p.s. - The only thing I would disagree with is that smell is a small thing. I think it's probably part and parcel with chemistry, and I no longer think of chemistry as negotiable.

Seconded! When I was dating my ex, I thought that I had lost my sex drive somehow. I considered it one of the symptoms of my then-undiagnosed illness. But with James it was electricity from the very beginning. I, like Jen, was floored. :))