And having some kind of spirituality (doesn't matter what) and bicycling and being a big old leftie of some kind also help for me. Ooooooooo, and not being possessive and understanding veganism.

Those are important too!

As far as Valentines' Day: I don't remember making a conscious decision to do so, but every time something good happened to someone (like a coworker getting flowers) I got all happy for them. I was quite proud of myself for not even having the slightest urge to mope. *lol*

I'm blushing anyway.