I wholeheartedly agree with all of your "people to date" criteria. Wholeheartedly.
I'm so blissing out on love tonight. I had such an amazing night with Lee, though it was quiet, there was a lot going on beneath the surface.
He has all those qualities and more. (Well, we're working on the getting along with my friends aspect, being that he can be a major introvert, but I know that when he does spend more time with some of my friends, everything will be snazzy.)
You make me want to write one of these lists, too, just of desirable qualities.
I'd add a similar entry to what you have:
Must Love the World. I want a lover, always, to love not just me or a select few people, but the whole goddamn world and all its craziness and even people who are not nice. Lee said something to me the other day, which I totally agree with: "I may not like a person, but I will always try to love them." Just the ability to love people in general and the world in general, that is a trait common to Lee and my former husband, Darshan, and it's now indispensable.
Also, Quiet Confidence. Loud confidence has its own sexiness, but Lee's quiet confidence is just so hot. He knows himself very well, and knows his limits. He stands up for himself and knows his value. I don't always have that quality, but being around him makes it stronger in me, too. Because confident people never need you to feel weak or insecure. They always want to build you up, too.
And having some kind of spirituality (doesn't matter what) and bicycling and being a big old leftie of some kind also help for me. Ooooooooo, and not being possessive and understanding veganism.
Alright. Done. And I TOTALLY agree about the silly sex. Lee and I are always giggling, because sex is passionate and serious and crazy and messy and human, and human things are funny!
I just want to reiterate, April, that I think you're so fucking cool. I thought that was really sweet how you gave me "hugs" on my V-day entry. Not many people give you hugs when you're already feeling happy, but you did. Having joy in your friends' joy, in some ways that's a rarer quality to find in a friend than a friend who will sympathize when you are down.
Yeah. I'm going to make you blush again if I go on like this.
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I'm so blissing out on love tonight. I had such an amazing night with Lee, though it was quiet, there was a lot going on beneath the surface.
He has all those qualities and more. (Well, we're working on the getting along with my friends aspect, being that he can be a major introvert, but I know that when he does spend more time with some of my friends, everything will be snazzy.)
You make me want to write one of these lists, too, just of desirable qualities.
I'd add a similar entry to what you have:
Must Love the World. I want a lover, always, to love not just me or a select few people, but the whole goddamn world and all its craziness and even people who are not nice. Lee said something to me the other day, which I totally agree with: "I may not like a person, but I will always try to love them." Just the ability to love people in general and the world in general, that is a trait common to Lee and my former husband, Darshan, and it's now indispensable.
Also, Quiet Confidence. Loud confidence has its own sexiness, but Lee's quiet confidence is just so hot. He knows himself very well, and knows his limits. He stands up for himself and knows his value. I don't always have that quality, but being around him makes it stronger in me, too. Because confident people never need you to feel weak or insecure. They always want to build you up, too.
And having some kind of spirituality (doesn't matter what) and bicycling and being a big old leftie of some kind also help for me. Ooooooooo, and not being possessive and understanding veganism.
Alright. Done. And I TOTALLY agree about the silly sex. Lee and I are always giggling, because sex is passionate and serious and crazy and messy and human, and human things are funny!
I just want to reiterate, April, that I think you're so fucking cool. I thought that was really sweet how you gave me "hugs" on my V-day entry. Not many people give you hugs when you're already feeling happy, but you did. Having joy in your friends' joy, in some ways that's a rarer quality to find in a friend than a friend who will sympathize when you are down.
Yeah. I'm going to make you blush again if I go on like this.
D'oh!
Love,
Jen